From collecting answers through the Internet, it seems to be a combination of the fan gender ratio in kpop as well as internalized misogyny. Those are easy answers to throw out just to shut people up, but what does that actually mean?
If you go on Netizen Buzz, and bring this point up, you will get tons of nuisances throwing shit at you complaining about why people always bring up the "injustice" of female idols. What they don't realize is that, if you don't speak up about certain things, nothing will change. In a perfect world, this argument wouldn't need to be brought up, but we don't live in a perfect world, and this issue still exists.
OBSERVATION #1:
Fun story: When my mom was a teenager back in the '70s, gender didn't factor into whether or not she liked someone more. She was much like Kpopalypse in the sense that "If they looked good, that was just a plus. If their songs were bad, I wouldn't listen to them." And she said this whole battle of the sexes thing that plagues pop music fans today didn't exist back then, at least among the people she knew.
So why did everything change? Well, you can blame '90s pop music for that.
In the '90s, there was a shift in the pop music trend, and the big groups where either all male (Backstreet Boys, NSYNC) or all female (Spice Girls, TLC). In the past, there had been all male and female groups, but in the '90s, there was an extremely heavy play on them, and so did the ideas of fandoms and each group having one set of fans just for them. Yeah, Kpopalypse wasn't shitting when he said every k-pop group ever is pretty much based off Spice Girls and NKOTB.
But didn't groups back in the day have all female and male? The answer is yes and no. The people that were put out front to sing and dance were typically all one gender, but if you were a group of female vocalist, you typically had males playing instruments, and if you had a male band group, you typically had female back-up singers.
Here's an example from "Dreamgirls," a 2006 movie roughly based off the lives of The Supremes.
And the iconic k-pop concept version of it: Wonder Girls - "Nobody"
So reason one:Heavy stress on single-gender groups
OBSERVATION #2:
In the female-fan heavily dominated world, cute boys are expected to draw in girls and cute girls are expected to draw in boys. But if everyone is only focused on one, then how come female idols get hated on by girls who claim to have never liked them in the first place?
This is nothing new to k-pop, and it most certainly isn't to American pop or any other genre that has boy groups and girl groups. Don't be fooled: Miley, Ariana, and Nicki all get slut shamed just as much if not more than T-ara, Girl's Day, and Stellar. The reason for this is simple, pseudo feminism. Pseudo feminism was popular for a while, and I'm glad to see a lot of people realizing that was bullshit and that it's dying down slightly. People will claim "As a feminist, I am offended by Girl's Day's concepts because they are trashy sexy, not classy sexy like Ga-In." In actuality, these people just aren't knowledgeable that female sexuality goes beyond what Ga-In does, and that it has both "trashy" and "classy" sides to it. They have been warped that being a feminist means being conservative, when it's pretty much the exact opposite. It's about expressing your sexuality whether it is conservative or not and not letting other people get in the way of that.
Look, being conservative is fine. Hell, I'm not flashy personally. But it's another thing when you try to dictate what people can and cannot do. That's the problem with it.
Reason two:Pseudo-feminism/morally conservative dictatorship
OBSERVATION #3:
Don't even ask how I managed to properly screen cap this. I just lucked up.
Boy groups are marketed to seem like their fangirls are worthy of them just as girl groups are marketed to fanboys. They are warped into thinking they actually have a chance with their oppar even though they have a better chance of winning an Olympic Gold Medal. This is why they feel "strong connections" to them. It's in the marketing, and it's a bunch of white noise stuff that I'm not going to get into mainly because Kpopalypse or Ahjussi could do it better.
However, media in society sucks. Not only do they promote hot-boys-that-you-know-deep-down-inside-you-will-never-really-have-a-chance-don't-look-at-me-like-that-you-know-it's-true, but they also have hot girls who are unfairly pretty and way closer to your crush than you could ever dream (unless you're a sasaeng, but then again, you've already kissed your chances goodbye by becoming one of those). So naturally, you're going to see them as some sort of threat to you from getting that Shindong dick. So what do they do? They try to ruin the girls's image every chance they get by hyping up the most minuscule of "scandals" in the hopes of forming a witch hunt.
Now, the reason they want a witch hunt is because they hope that by showing these female idols "true colors" that their oppar will see them as too low to date, thus eliminating their threat. But it obviously doesn't work as the T-ara members that are confirmed to be dating are dating some pretty high-profile dudes who are well liked by the public and obviously like them enough they don't care if their reputation gets dragged in the process.
You see how this could be damaging to a co-ed group?
Reason three:Threat to oppa complex
OBSERVATION #4:
Finally, we have the biggest one, which is a combination of all — the shielding of fandoms. If Big Bang didn't have the support system they did, as well as coming from a Top 3 company, they would have probably been buried before you could say "Marijuana," "Jizz On Titties," and "Audi." Big Bang's scandals make the Girl's Day scandal look like an argument between a brother and sister over who gets the last cookie. But because VIPs are some of the most driven fans on the fucking planet (like Jesus Christ, take a chill pill once in a fucking while), Big Bang is able to prevail and prosper damn near untouched. Oh, they still get a ton of hate, a lot of big-name boy groups get lots of hate. But their fans shield and support them so "well" that they are able to have welcomed comebacks and achieve all-kills.
Now, this isn't inherently a fangirl's fault, but dig a little deeper. People always ask, "Why don't fanboys shield their noonas?" and I thought of this too. Are they lacking determination, or are they spending all of it on fapping? Or, do they just not care? The answer COULD be that, and it could also be that since there is a greater amount of fangirls, the fanboys shielding gets overlooked by all of the hate that gets spread by the antis. I honestly don't know, but what I do know is it's rare that female idols get the shield of approval. But it isn't impossible to find. Just look at Hyuna's new teaser:
Sure, you have the typical "She's such a whore" in the comments section, but those are actually the minority. Majority of the comments I've seen (as of the time I've last viewed it, Aug. 11) is stuff like "OMG Hyuna's such a queen!" and "Yassss, slay queen." and "She's a sexy goddess queen" and a bunch of other idiotic shit that's worth a thousand STFUs. But um, Hyuna's doing shit that blasts every other raunchy concept in k-pop out of the water. She's naked, drinking, having a party in a frat in Kentucky (Maliblah blah blah, it's fucking Kentucky), implied cocaine use, and an implied blow job. Meanwhile Stellar hump a floor and have a couple of vagina symbols in their mv and get shitted on?
Someone actually brought this up and got replies like "OMG don't compare, Hyuna doesn't look forced and try-hardy, Stellar does." ect. (I should submit these for STFU, but I can't screen cap.) Oh fucking please, while Hyuna's teaser is glorious, it's very try-hardy. But hey, try hard or don't try at all is what I say.
Just listen to those fangirls cheer her on:
That's some cold-hard stanning right there. Fuck worrying about your boyfriend fapping to Hyuna — worry about your girlfriend fapping to Hyuna.
Reason four:Extremely one-sided fandom shielding
So there's my first article for AKF; I hoped you guys liked it. At the end of the day, the last thing I want to do is disappoint anybody. I wanted to have a conclusion here, but it pretty much writes itself. Now of course, fanboys are not excluded from any of the fuckery above, either. It's just less seen from them, and they're annoying in other ways that I may or may not write about depending on the demand. But it does happen. Also, I'm not saying male idols don't have it rough, either, but again, they have it rough in different ways that I may or may not blog about depending on if it gets demanded.
At the end of the day, these are just my thoughts on the subject matter. It's not like I wasn't a delusional fangirl in the past, but we all reflect and return with more mature images when we're exposed to new way of looking at something, and hopefully, I helped someone like this blog helped me.
Reason four:Extremely one-sided fandom shielding
So there's my first article for AKF; I hoped you guys liked it. At the end of the day, the last thing I want to do is disappoint anybody. I wanted to have a conclusion here, but it pretty much writes itself. Now of course, fanboys are not excluded from any of the fuckery above, either. It's just less seen from them, and they're annoying in other ways that I may or may not write about depending on the demand. But it does happen. Also, I'm not saying male idols don't have it rough, either, but again, they have it rough in different ways that I may or may not blog about depending on if it gets demanded.
At the end of the day, these are just my thoughts on the subject matter. It's not like I wasn't a delusional fangirl in the past, but we all reflect and return with more mature images when we're exposed to new way of looking at something, and hopefully, I helped someone like this blog helped me.