Stop Taking Kpop So Seriously

While being in the KPOP fandom, I never truly felt good about myself. Actually, I used to be very introvert and shy (still am, but less). I don’t make friends that easily and I can lose them quickly.

Okay, the first problem with this essay that I have is that this fan is trying to demonize herself. Being an introvert isn't bad. Not wanting to hear people talk about stupid shit all the time isn't bad. This fan is trying to turn a trait that she thinks is bad and trying to compare it to the "perfectionism" of idols. It simple doesn't work. The two are unrelated.

Sometimes I would see the bond between the members and the interactions between groups and ask myself “Why can’t I make friends?” I would wonder “Why am I not pretty like her? Why can’t my skin be this flawless? Why can’t I wear designer clothes and look good in everything?” Because KPOP idols always strive for perfection, I was scared of being who I really am. I knew I would never be as good as them. I’m not blaming them for the fact that I can’t express my feelings but it’s not like they helped me overcome the fear of being criticized for saying my opinion (And it’s not like the fans helped either).

Yes, you are blaming Kpop for your introversion. At this point, I wouldn't even call it introversion. Introversion means that a person prefers to be alone and have a lot of alone time, as opposed to extroversion, where the person wants to be around others as much as possible. For example, I'm an introvert, I prefer having a lot of alone time, but that doesn't hurt me when making new friends. Being shy =/= introversion. This fangirl is trying to blame her problems on Kpop.

There were hardly any KPOP idol songs in which I could relate to, love songs were not what I needed. Perhaps now that I lost interest in KPOP there are idols making songs about society and life. Perhaps idols that made songs about dreams and hope always existed but they were overshadowed by music with repetitive lyrics that made no sense. Perhaps it was simply my fault for not trying to look for those songs.

I can't take this seriously. If you can't even understand Korean, I don't see how a song could change your life anyway. If you want a song to change your life, mainstream pop isn't the way to go.

Why did I stop being a fan of KPOP? I’m just going to say that they didn’t really help me learn lessons that I could use in my life. They were entertaining yes, but not to the point to have them as my role models or to worship them.

But you did worship your oppars and unnirs and are now blaming your troubles upon them. I don't understand this mindset at all. Idols aren't meant to be role models insomuch as they are entertainers. They want you to buy their shit and that's it. Stop treating Kpop as a religion.

I know some people like KPOP simply for the entertainment, to lock themselves from the real world or the release stress. Or just to fantasize about good-looking people they can’t have and it’s good if this is what they need and they feel better about themselves (but please, know your limits and when to stop). I’m not saying that everyone should stop listening to KPOP and go listen to music with lyrics that make you cry and reflect on life.

Well sorry that I only listen to Kpop for catchy music and hot girls. Sorry that I don't blame the fact that it's hard to find a job right now on Kpop. Sorry that I don't blame Kpop for hating working in groups for school projects. Oh wait, I'm not sorry, because Kpop isn't the problem.

Stop blaming your troubles on Kpop.